Does the Dream Man Change?

Everyone has an ideal man or woman. You know, that perfect person who lives only in your hottest makeout dreams.

(I'm not the only person who has makeout dreams, right?)

(Right?)

(Awkwardddd)

Today, my partner in Single Girl crime, Jess, and I are discussing how the dream guy has changed over the years. Jess specifically wanted to compare our dream men at 21/22 vs. our dream men now, which is fortuitous because I happen to have a blog post that I wrote when I was 21 about this very thing.

You know this is old school because I couldn't be bothered to capitalize or punctuate anything. Oh, to be young and full of ennui. Anyway, here is my unedited DREAM SEXY MAN list from 2005. Ahem.


- between 6' and 6'3
- beauuuuutiful eyes. any color, as long as they have some intensity in them
- medium build (no one scrawny, no football player types)
- wears GLASSES. not nerdy ben folds glasses, intellectual looking glasses. like janeane garofalo (how badly did i just butcher that name?) or rivers cuomo.
- smarter than me but doesnt necessarily know it. intellect comes out in conversation
- dresses decently but NOT preppy. polo shirts are allowed, but NO POPPED COLLARS.
- knows how to dance and isnt afraid to do it
- loves the booze and hitting up bars
- athletic, because everyone needs a running buddy
- has some stereotypically male interests, like video games, sports, whathaveyou
- has no intention of celebrating any anniversaries before 6 months
- knows that flowers are not always an appropriate gift
- must be liberal and votes in at LEAST presidential elections
- has hobbies or passions in life, music is preferably one of them (playing an instrument, big bonus)
- jewish, but like me, sees religion as more of family bonding than a way of life

And then I guess I just couldn't stop the waterfall of inspiration because I wrote another post later that day with an addendum.


- either the same age as me or no more than 2 years older (not younger)
- sense of humor
- laaaaaid back (with his mind on his money and his money on his mind)
- has not already dated or hooked up with any of my friends
- good in bed. obviously.
- doesnt need to cuddle to fall asleep (as you all know, there is no touching any other human being while sleeping)
- knows and exercises the difference between the word "less" and the word "fewer"
- can fix my computer when it inevitably malfunctions

After reading through this list, I kind of have to say - 21 year old me had her shit RIGHT. I still agree with most of these. But here are some specific comments:

- I still have a glasses fetish. But what I described at 21 is hipster glasses. I do not want to date a man with Rivers Cuomo glasses. I don't even want to date Rivers Cuomo (anymore). Normal looking glasses are just fine. And by just fine I mean...swoon.

- I like that I said I didn't want to date a guy who pops his collar yet, as we learned in this post, when I was 22 I had a brief involvement with the guy who wrote the wikipedia entry on popped collars I CANNOT MAKE THIS UP.

God I am so awesome. Slash terrible.

- HAHAHA I wanted a running buddy. LOLZ PAST ARIELLE, WHO ARE YOU.

- Ditto on guys playing instruments. Bleh.

- I am now willing to date someone more than 2 years older. I am also willing to go a few years younger, because, let's face it, I'm immature. Is there a difference between a 26 year old guy and me? Nope.

- I cannot date someone who is too laid back. "Laid back" is just another way of saying "flaky."

Seriously though, I more or less nailed it. I could add a few things if I wanted to but really, this guy sounds pretty great. Sign me up.