Single Solo Dates

As a belated holiday present to you all, Jess and I are reviving Single Girl Confidential! Try and contain your excitement, please.

The hot topic of the day is, dun dun DUNNN, solo dates. You know, the times where you take yourself out and treat yo'self RIGHT because seriously, everyone deserves to go on a date that doesn't involve uncomfortable conversation or an awkward wallet dance of who's-going-to-pay-for-this.

Jess and I are 2 of the most independent women I know, and so we're both huge fans of the solo date. Sure, I love spending quality NYC time with friends, but sometimes I can't be bothered to put in the effort required to find someone who happens to both a) want to do a specific thing with me and b) be free at the time that I want to do it. And you know, I don't have any dudes offering to take me to any of these things right now. So I go alone. And there has never been a museum or play or concert that I've been to by myself where I genuinely felt like I would have had more fun with someone else there.

I feel pretty strongly that everyone - single, taken, or some version of "it's complicated" - should enjoy quality time alone - not just quality time hanging out at home watching TV without pants on, though that is of course both amazing and important, but quality time outside the house. Because the thing about being in a relationship is that you can't do it without the consent of someone else, and no one ever knows when that consenting individual is going to come along. So in the meantime, why not embrace the opportunity to hang out with the most awesome person in your life? (Hint: it's you! Duh). Romantic interests may come and go, but you, you sexy beast you, will always be there. The lack of a significant other is no excuse for not getting out there and enjoying your life to the fullest.

Besides, everyone knows that the best relationships come from independent people. Factual fact.

So you know that place you've always wanted to try? Whether it's a bar or an art installation or a cupcake shop - go there. Bring a book, if it's appropriate. Sit down, relax, and treat yourself. You deserve it.